August 17, 2010

Workplace Bullying in New Zealand

Chief Executive Officer resigns admitting ‘unbecoming behaviour’ in $A34 million lawsuit. Recently a massive claim ($A37 million) for damages for sexual harassment was lodged by an employee of David Jones, one of the largest and most prestigious department Stores in Australia, against the CEO. The fallout for the perpetrator has been that the CEO has […]

August 10, 2010

Coping with Anxiety in the 21st Century

One reason why the Roman Empire grew so large and survived so long – a prodigious feat of management – is that there was no railway, car, airplane, radio, paper, or telephone. Above all, there was no telephone. You could not maintain any illusion of direct control over a general or provincial governor; you could […]


Anxious, Burnt Out, Fearful, Stressed

A familiar thread of similar reactions runs through these experiences.  The reaction of the negative impact on our lives can be anywhere from 0 to 10.  If the impact passes a 5 and it is not addressed then life can become unbearable. In the childhood developmental process our teachers force the learning of reading, writing […]

July 8, 2010

The Dynamics of Marital therapy

This paper will look at the major dynamics of marital therapy. First, will present a definition of marital therapy; second the nature of the dynamics of marital therapy as distinct from individual therapy will be examined; thirdly, consideration will be given to how a marital therapist’s knowledge of intimacy can have a bearing on marital […]


Ingredients For A Loving Intimate Relationship

For me a successful love relationship requires Freedom Honesty and acceptance of whatever the other shares with you, without judgement Separate individual identity Commitment Sexual intimacy only with each other Be both a giver and receiver Freedom Freedom to be yourself, to have who ever you choose as a friend, pursue your own interests and […]



A corporate client told me this morning that he had to be in control……………. I replied…….”What would it be like for you to “Surrender”…your control…. That was a rhetorical question at the end of our session………….. Surrender seems to have some connotation of weakness about it???? Weak! A weak man can never surrender! You may […]